This letter is not actually from a parent who was looking out for their child and pre-screening, as far as I can tell this is from a parent that spied on their daughter's email, then logged into her account and deleted it…. Although from the style of writing, I am half convinced its from crazy Whitestar (a former member who was removed from the pregnancy forum for causing disruptions, and then took to attacking the pregnant women there in the most hateful ways possible).
From: "irockhard"
Subject: Experts adviceDear IAM@bmezine.com.
I have been cruising your pages, at BME and IAM - well the ones that I could get access to, which was yours. My daughter wanted to become a member of IAM, and as you suggested, I looked over the site (BME and the community chat) on her behalf. I have a few questions:
1. Do you pay experts for the advice that you proffer on your site, or is it submit as you feel, whether the contributors are qualified or not?
2. Who is your advising medical practitioner for this advice if in fact you have one, or is it your misinterpretation of hastily researched information that graces the "risks" sections of your site?
3. How many of these "doctors" like Steve Hawath are actually doctors? We saw him on Ripley's the other day, and just wondered how an unqualified person like himself can actually practice this type of stuff without certification?
The skin is being cut, sutured.
Alot of the content you show is pretty dangerous and your encouragement of these practices is downright negligent, considering the age range of persons who use your site - my daughter is 16.
You are obviously quite the egoist to compare yourself to Ghandi in what could only be an explanation of your life? Have you been laughed at, and are you winning now? I suspect you are still being laughed at - in fact I know you are.
My daughter will not be joining your site, as the restrictions to content are not to my liking. You need to have a WARNING that is highly visible, in preference to it being hidden behind a link that really doesn't indicate legalities lay behind. I believe this warning should come up before each offending image, and you have not managed to secure your site in this manner.
My daughter can pierce and colour herself as much as she wants, but I don't believe that your site is a positive place for her. It seems to be full of under-age whining American and Canadian loser children (saw some more at a friend's house today, after not being satiated with only your page for comment) with not much clue to the world, or to who they are. My daughter is better without this type of person also.
Why do you encourage your site users to have harsher and harsher body modifications carried out on themselves? Is it that you have nothing left of your own to modify. How's about you chop your dick off?
I don't see any safety here. If I had the power, I would ensure that your grotty little effort was closed down, but the net is a free place (not so on your site though - my friend's daughter got an automated message, due to saying something about nothing she was referring to - SOME robot wrote it to her.You need to check your filters or something. There is nothing wrong with the word homosexual. Surely you are open enough to understand that?) - so I just thought that I would let you know you lost two customers today - perhaps you shouldn't bother telling the children you service to ask their parents to cruise around with them on your site. Surely even you can understand that this sort of stuff is not mainstream, and any parent worth their salt would not want their child encouraged into the world you live in.
Now, I suggest YOU unplug your computer and throw it out the window - your site is useless.
Perturbed Mother.
The kicker is that it only takes a few crazy parents freaking out and IAM gets shut down. Child endangerment laws are very aggressive, and if parents wanted to, I don't think it would be difficult to force me to remove every underage user… I'm taking steps to make IAM legally untouchable, but nothing is foolproof. Anyway, here's a recent message I got to BME/Risks, regarding melanoma:
Regarding: MelanomaComment:
it sucks!!!! FUCK ALL MEN!!!! that's dope...it's absurd!!!! wut the hell do u think of ur fucking selves?????
This next email is from a guy who's tattoo experience was turned down because pretty much every word was misspelled, including tattoo, and little to no effort had been made to be coherent. In all seriousness, it was one of the worst experiences submitted in that timeperiod:
From: "Billy S"
Subject: Re: My tatoo!OMG you guys are such losrers! Thats ok I've got better things to do than write an 800 word "experience" to you people, and by the way, I'm a DAMN good writer , and I will be a journalist someday!
This is from a fan in France:
From: "phil" ***@free.fr
Subject: Crazy ..Hello .
Not a long registraded user , but fan since 1999 .
I like the Bonus Gallerie . But too much guys nows .. And they ' re crazy ...
Too much blood . Too much crazy men . Not as many women as before . Nothing erotic in their stupid ( poor ) splited coks .I think just a minority can be excited with this .. Most are ....... Stupid maso , even not erotics .
I don t know the worlds in English .
Just thx Misty and Christine ..Phil
It's weird; it's fine by me if people file complaints/recommendations, but I'm surprised people don't realize that if you want to get your way, it's best if you're polite. I continue to get mail for the late “No Hand”:
From: "ICE_QUEEN"
Subject: for no handpersonally i think your a sad individual . who needs to get a life and stop using this as an excuse for ppl to take interest in you. shame they cant amputate your head and do us all a favour. i watched as afriend went through agony with a 3 year old boy with cancer , how doctor did pioneering surgery on his hand and arm to save it by taking veins tendons etc from elsewhere in his body , and how they succeeded wonderfully , and there are sad lame fucks like you out there willingly doing this to yourself. well i hope you make your parents proud they mustve wanted to bring someone into the world whos gonna take himself out of it bit by bit. at least with tattoing there is a degree of change yes but its accentuating parts by making them stand out .this is pathetic attention seeking.
I got this next email from a guy who was deleted for going around to various people's forums he didn't know and signing them “I hope you die” and telling people (again, that he didn't even know) the world would be a better place if they killed themselves, and so on. Anyway, he emailed me asking why he was deleted, and I'd replied, “you know EXACTLY why you were deleted”.
From: joseph f
Subject: Re: WHAT THE FUCK?no I don't.could it be for the same things that your militant straight edge friends do to anyone whos not like them?yeah I'm sure of it.and no warning of it either?your fuckin bullshit.
Well, that's the closest I could get to a “funmail”. Sorry it's not more “fun”… Most of the mail I've been getting lately is just really hateful and vicious. This is actually the lighter end of it… Most of it is so fucked up and full of rage I don't want to even print it here because I know it's going to hurt the people reading it.
Those of us that are interested in heavy modification forget sometimes that the world is still a very very long way from accepting these practises. Because of the high media visibility, we're entering a phase of enormous backlash. It's not going to be fun for the next couple of years in some ways.
A number of us have been prosecuted.
A number are currently being prosecuted.
It will still get worse before it gets better.