Shannon Larratt is Zentastic

One of the things about knowing a lot of people both online and in person is that you tend to know many unpleasant things that you'd rather not know about those people. I think of the various couples I know — usually where I consider each of them a friend — I can think of a handful where I either know or have very strong reason to believe that one or both of them are cheating on or otherwise betraying and hurting the other… and not in a good way…

Now, this is no Dear Abby Reader posting, but I am interested in knowing this from any friends that read this diary: If I know that your partner is cheating on you, do you want me to tell you, or would you rather I just mind my own business? How “sure” do you want me to be before I say something to you? What if I know they're cheating, but don't think it affects your relationship (like it only happens on vacation, or with prostitutes or a mistress, or whatever)?

And those of you on the other side of the cheater-coin, do you want me to say anything to you?

Note: Just to be clear, my general policy is “see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil!” — that is, I don't want to know about it in the first place, and I'm keeping my mouth shut. If you think your partner is cheating on you and you know I'm friends with both of you, feel free to approach me directly, but unless you ask, as a rule I'm not volunteering anything!